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Oh, Bee ...

  • Feb. 6th, 2011 at 10:45 AM
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caarianna
I've just seen the news that Bee, aka Slipperieslope, has died, and I can't seem to stop crying. She was such warm, delightful, positive and supportive person, someone always there whom you knew you could count on. I can't believe she's gone. Don't want to believe it. And I feel so badly that I didn't even know she was ill, because she never said anything. I hope she knew what a treasure she was ....

God, I'm going to miss her so much.

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snailbones
Feb. 6th, 2011 06:54 pm (UTC)


It's so hard to know people through LJ this way, because I desperately want to hug you.

I'm sure she knew how much she was loved. ♥

::hugs you hard::

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caarianna
Feb. 6th, 2011 07:11 pm (UTC)
::hugs you right back::

I'd feel as badly if I lost you, sweetie. God, I really hope I get to meet you face to face this coming fall.

::hugs you again::
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t_verano
Feb. 6th, 2011 06:57 pm (UTC)
::hugs you very hard:: Yes, everything you said, so much.
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caarianna
Feb. 6th, 2011 07:53 pm (UTC)
::hugs you right back::
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janedavitt
Feb. 6th, 2011 07:10 pm (UTC)
I'm crying too, just so stunned and shocked. God, this is awful news.
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caarianna
Feb. 6th, 2011 07:50 pm (UTC)
Stunned and shocked, yes, just how I feel. She was only 56. I just can't seem to wrap my head around it. She was such a positive force in the fandom, such a sweet lady.
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fluterbev
Feb. 6th, 2011 07:25 pm (UTC)
I was so sad when I saw the note in her journal this morning. I kept coming back to look at it, hoping desperately that I'd misunderstood it, only for the truth to gradually dawn :-(

I didn't know her all that well, but she commented in my journal a lot and was one of the regular feedbackers who are so rare in fandom these days. She always seemed, to me, to be so even handed and kind to everyone, just a good egg who everybody liked. I am so sorry she is gone and I'll truly miss her contribution to making the fandom such a nice place to be.

We've lost so many lovely folk the last few years. So sad. ::hugs you tight::
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caarianna
Feb. 6th, 2011 07:53 pm (UTC)
Yeah, I know what you mean. I'd just gotten up and turned on my computer and saw your note and thought, 'no, that can't be right', so I went to the link ... went back three times before I even noticed the imbedded 'What a Wonderful World' link. So like Bee to select such a sweet and gentle vid.
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jessriley
Feb. 6th, 2011 08:30 pm (UTC)
I can't believe it. It's so unfair.
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caarianna
Feb. 6th, 2011 09:43 pm (UTC)
Very unfair. She was only 56. I've just heard that she died unexpectedly in her sleep, so at least it sounds as if she didn't suffer.

::hugs::
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bluewolf458
Feb. 6th, 2011 08:53 pm (UTC)
I didn't actually know her, but she'll be missed.
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caarianna
Feb. 6th, 2011 09:44 pm (UTC)
There're folks in fandom whom we don't get to meet face to face but we still know them, know their kindness and consideration. She was very special and still relatively young, only 56. Life can be very unfair.
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roslynsmuse
Feb. 7th, 2011 01:30 am (UTC)
We used to correspond by email as well in our RL roles :-) She was so happy at finally retiring and getting to do as she pleased. Bee was incredibly encouraging to all of us who write, however laboriously and sporadically. She just loved everyone and wanted happiness for all. I got the feeling she was quite a humanitarian herself though quiet about her deeds.

Such a shock...

Roslyn
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caarianna
Feb. 7th, 2011 01:35 am (UTC)
Bee was encouraging to artists, too, and one of the most generous supporters of Moonridge in terms of bidding on art and stories.

So unfair for her to die just as her freedom was beginning and she was so looking forward to all the future would hold.

I just feel so badly for her, her family and, well, all of us. She always gave as much or more than she received.
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kat_rowe
Feb. 7th, 2011 04:23 am (UTC)
that's never an easy thing :(

*hugs you tight* Her and all those whose lives she touched will be in my thoughts and prayers. You hang in there and let me know if you need to talk
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caarianna
Feb. 7th, 2011 04:35 am (UTC)
ah, thanks, sweetie. You're such a kind soul.

Fandom is an odd place, where we come to care so much about people we've not 'met', not face to face. Bee and I were going to get together later this year, finally. Last year, another online friend, same age as me almost to the day, another Canadian whom I planned to meet as soon as I moved back east died. I'd feel as bad if something awful happened to you.

The good news, if there is any, in all of this is that Bee died in her sleep, peaceful with we hope no pain. I just feel so badly that she didn't get to enjoy her retirement, and I feel badly for her family.

I'll be okay, thanks. But I really appreciate your support and offer to talk. It's just the shock that made it so hard. And I'm so damned sick of losing people I care about. But this isn't about me, and I have to remember that.
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kat_rowe
Feb. 7th, 2011 04:54 am (UTC)
Fandom is amazing the way it brings together people who would never come together otherwise and binds them together so tightly. You almost hurt more when it's an internet friend and the fact that you never got to smile right at them or hug them in person doesn't help. I think we tend to forget that those things don't mean we didn't bring them joy or know them well *hug*

At least she didn't suffer. Which isn't much consolation to her family, I'm sure, but spares them more pain than they could know. Nothing's worse than watching a loved one suffer before they die.

In a lot of ways, death is about those left behind. The one who's passed is beyond suffering or regret. The rest of us aren't :( And, in many ways, every loss is a learning experience and one that makes us stronger.

You, Bee, and Bee's family and friends will all remain in my thoughts and prayers. Hang in there *hugs you more*
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caarianna
Feb. 7th, 2011 05:09 am (UTC)
I know you've seen and suffered that pain up close, and that you know how very hard it is to watch a loved one die. Takes real strength to be there, real love. Thanks for your words, your kind thoughts and your prayers.

::hugs you right back::
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kat_rowe
Feb. 8th, 2011 04:19 pm (UTC)
it takes strength and love to be there, but i can't imagine what it would be like afterward if one hadn't. i think it's one of those things that probably hurts either way

*hugs you more* I hope you and all Bee's friend's and family are managing okay. I'm not sure if it ever gets easier but it definitely gets more bearable and that's a blessing *hug* hang in there
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laurie_ky
Feb. 7th, 2011 05:40 am (UTC)
She loved her fandoms, and she made participating in them such a pleasant experience. I'll miss her terribly.

Laurie
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caarianna
Feb. 7th, 2011 05:56 am (UTC)
How neat that you went to the same college at the same time! I can tell you both got a kick out of that. But I'd thought you were much younger -- you need to take care of yourself and not work so damned hard!

Lovely tribute to Bee on your LJ. She was so very supportive and generous, so special.
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laurie_ky
Feb. 7th, 2011 06:32 am (UTC)
We did think it was cool that we were there at the same time, but she graduated before I did. (I was there about six or seven years, took some extra classes and occasionally skipped a semester to work and make more money than I could part time while taking classes)

So you thought I was younger. Huh. That's interesting, how impressions are formed. As for not working so hard, I'm all for that, but I don't see anything changing. I'll have to work for ten more years before I can retire.

I've cried off and on all day, but we had a superbowl party planned and I had a lot to do to get ready, so I didn't have time to post till this evening.

Laurie
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